G said I should write about what I want from a significant other. That I would “learn a lot about myself” and it would surprise me. He’s very intuitive like that. I know I wrote a post earlier about how I don’t believe in having a dream man. This exercise might be good for me though. I should have some standards for what I want. I need to make sure I end up with the right person for me. So here it goes, qualities I want in my significant other:
- Nice. I know nice is a simple, silly way to describe someone, but I really don’t care. I want him to have nice rooted in his core.
- Intelligent. Another really important one for me. I need him to be intelligent, because I am too. I want someone that can keep up with my mind and have hopes of understanding it.
- Confident. I’m very attracted to confidence. It can make me so much more into a man if he displays that. His physical appearance could be average, but with confidence he would be a 10 in my eyes.
- Optimistic. A positive outlook on life is so important. Positive people are usually happy people. That warmth radiates and helps make the people around them more happy too. I would really like someone who is capable of that.
- Self Aware. He needs to be aware of how his actions effect others. He needs to be able to realize when he does something wrong and fix it.
- Generous. I want someone who will help others out just because they need it, not because they expect something in return. And I don’t just want them to be generous with me, I want it to extend to the other people in their life.
Okay, I think that’s enough. I feel like I could keep going for a really long time. If I do that I’m going to create someone who is perfect that doesn’t exist. I like to keep my expectations realistic. I think it’s realistic that I could find someone with those six qualities. I shouldn’t settle for less then that either. I made excuses for P that no one was perfect. That I would have to accept his flaws, because I could never find anyone that would treat me exactly how I wanted to be treated. I think I know now that I was wrong. There is someone out there that will be good to me, and I deserve that. I deserve all of it.