I believe we are all searching for people who understand us. People who see our quirks and eccentricities, and know why they are there. These people become especially important when we find ourselves in a time of crisis. When you’re upset, it’s really nice to have someone around who genuinely knows how you feel. Empathy is constructive; it builds you back up. The knowledge that another person has been there, gone through it and come out okay is extremely comforting. I think feelings of despair and desolation only come about when you are not aware that there is someone out there who understands. The challenge comes in locating that person. There is a certain level of openness that is necessary to discover the hard truths of another’s life. You have to be willing to share your experiences. No matter how painful that may be.
I certainly was not aware of anyone that understood me until I started blogging. There have been quite a few people that have come out and shared experiences that were similar to mine. I am very thankful to them. They are assisting me through this process of healing just by sharing their story. I have also discovered another category…people who seem to understand me better then I understand myself. I wonder how this fine tuned knowledge of my inner workings comes to be in their possession. It is simply amazing how some folks out there can read a few blog posts and then completely get someone. I think it’s a rare gift, but a precious one. I certainly don’t possess it. When I read others’ blogs, I can tell a lot about them. But the level of understand a couple of my readers have about me is astounding.
I wonder if there are people that are put on this Earth and they just know us. They just understand us. No explanations needed. I would like whoever I marry to have that knowledge of me. Maybe not possess it right away, but have the ability to. I think it’s really important. Human beings are extremely elaborate creatures. I’d like to be with someone that genuinely comprehends my complexities. And I want to have the ability to grasp theirs. I actually believe this is a very important foundation for a lasting relationship. Not that I know much about marriage. However if someone asked me one of the important keys to lasting love, I would probably tell them what I just told you.