Fate And Regrets

I’m not a religious person. Some of you may have picked this up from reading my blog. This is probably the only time you’re going to hear me talk about God. I’m not atheist though. I grew up without the presence of a church in my life. Please don’t comment about how I need God in my life. I am not a fan of most organized religions. I have many reasons for this. One of the largest is that all I see is conflict surrounding the subject. I’m no expert here, but I’m pretty sure if there is a God he doesn’t want us killing each other over how to worship him. For this reason, I decline to participate. I’m also not sure what I believe right now. I feel as I grow older I will be able to make those decisions for myself, not have a book make them for me.

I brought up religion because I wanted to talk about fate and regrets. I read a lot of blogs where people explain everything that happens to them as “God’s plan”. I think this is ludicrous. However, I do think things happen to us for a reason. I believe we go through bad experiences so we can learn from them and develop into better human beings. These are just my opinions. I’m not speaking in facts right now. I’m just explaining how I feel about the subject. I’m pretty sure some higher power didn’t have me fall in love with P just to teach me a few lessons. However, I do think that it is important for me to understand what happened and why. Calling it fate or saying God wanted it to happen and that’s why it did is just an excuse. You’ll keep making the same mistakes if that’s what is running through your head.

I don’t regret any of the decisions I’ve made in life. That is one burden I will not allow my conscience to bear. Do I think some of them were stupid? Absolutely. Do I feel guilty when I think about some of my past actions? Even more so. However, there are no regrets here. Why? Because every stupid thing I’ve done or said played a part in developing me into who I am today. And I like who I am, flaws and all. I could spend a lot of time brooding over why I got back together with P the first time we broke up. But what would that accomplish? Nothing, except making me feel bad about myself. I don’t need that. Which is why I don’t carry regret with me. However, when I make a poor choice I do consider what I could have done differently. I think that’s very important.

I’m not trying to tell anyone out there how to live their life. I don’t feel as though I’m in a position to do that. I really don’t think anyone is because we are all different. We all need to be free to make our own decisions about how to live our lives. I write this blog to talk about me personally and no one else. If you agree with my philosophies, I’m glad. If you don’t, that’s okay too. That’s the beauty of human beings. We are all capable of thinking and developing our own ideas, if we so choose.


8 thoughts on “Fate And Regrets

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  2. Great post with a great approach. We all identify as humans together, but luckily we are not all the same. We each only get one life (maybe), so we should live it the way we want to. Nobody else can dictate how we live our lives.

  3. “Calling it fate or saying God wanted it to happen and that’s why it did is just an excuse.” I always say fate is the lazy persons way out of everything. I used to live in an Islamic country and it used to get so tiring hearing people say ‘inshallah’ which means ‘if god permits’. Once i heard a lady respond to someone telling her to buckly up her kids in the backseat of the car, that ‘inshallah, if i have an accident, it’s god’s will they die’. WTF is that!? Anyway, side tracked..
    I’m pretty religious, I go to church (an organised relgion as you might call it) every week, but I’m very open minded and in no way shoving my opinions down other peoples throats. I wish we’d all live and let live. We’ve got some Christians hating on gays, and some athiests hating on anyone who believes in a higher power. Geez, everyone just needs to get on with their own lives.

  4. I saw Make.Life.Orange and just knew this was for me. Then, of all days, I am seeing this post of yours from January. I was smiling the whole time I was reading because these are my thoughts exactly. I just wrote my friend about “soul mate.” I think I am reading stuff like this to become even more aware of how connected we are. You literally wrote my words, my thoughts…
    And, as “fate” would have it, I wrote in my diary what might become a blog of my own about Karma being a “Bi*%!” but I was bemoaning yet another punch in the stomach from my stupid choices. But, as my higher self would have it, I meditated, read a few blogs and just know that all is well. Thanks for your post. SO wonder-full to “meet” you! 😀

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