I go to one of the largest universities in the United States. Close to 50,000 students attend Penn State University Park Campus. Whenever we are feeling down about a guy, my roommates and I always tell each other, “Don’t worry. We go to school with 20,000 men. There’s gotta be someone out there.” I suppose it’s our way of being optimistic. But realistically, the number of dateable men here is a lot smaller then 20,000. I think my friends hold onto this notion that they are going to find person they’ll marry here. I’m not positive, but I’m pretty sure the world doesn’t end and all of them guys fall off the planet once you finish undergrad.
Not to mention, I’m pretty sure the men here aren’t thinking the same thing. It’s no secret that Penn State is a party school. Go downtown at 2 a.m. on a Friday or Saturday; it’s like anarchy. Fun anarchy though. But I have found that guys here are mostly trying to rack up their number. It’s not even hard for them either. Girls here are easy. Soooooo easy. I wish they would gain a little self respect. Maybe then the guys would treat us with some respect. Needless to say, they don’t have marriage on their minds. Not that they should. I mean we’re all about 18-23, why should we be preparing to pack it in for life already?
I’m not being cynical about marriage. I definitely want to get married and have a family one day. I just feel like my peers (especially the female ones) need to slow down a bit. This is our time to experience life, not sit around waiting for true love and wedding bells. Maybe that’s the reason the divorce rate is so high. We’re all making the life-long commitment much too early. I feel like it takes a lot of maturity to make that decision. Maturity I’m positive I don’t have. And I’m even more certain my roommates don’t have it. Just the fact that they can fall head over heels for a guy they talk to once is proof enough of that.
I’m just making generalizations. I’m sure there are people who go here who are in love and ready for marriage. That’s fine. However, it is my firm opinion that most of us need to grow up and live life a little more. I think being in a relationship is fine too. That helps us learn a lot about ourselves. But we’re still growing and developing. It doesn’t end with adolescence. I’m pretty sure emotional development isn’t complete until age 21. And that’s obviously not specific, some people are going to be slower and some faster. Don’t you think it’s a bad idea to commit your life to someone before you’re finished maturing emotionally?